Course Name - Achieving the State of Clarity
Discover Your True Potential: Achieving the State of Clarity is a transformative program that combines powerful neuro-linguistic programming and kinesiology techniques. Uncover unconscious motivations, eliminate internal conflicts and limiting beliefs, and learn tools to manage stress and trauma.
Find your core values and belief systems that impact your behavior and outcomes, and shift into a state of clarity. Set goals that you won't sabotage, and learn to communicate effectively and influence with integrity. Tap into your true potential and achieve success with Achieving the State of Clarity.
Stage 1 – Awakening
The first section of this program is called Awakening. This guides you through the process of revealing the unconscious aspects of your mind, the part you aren't aware of, but which shapes your reality. Awakening your unconscious is necessary to reprogram the way you want your life to be, which will mark the beginning of your inner transformation.
Achieving the State of Clarity's purpose is to shine a light on the hidden workings of the mind, revealing aspects of ourselves which exist outside our awareness.
Like a light bearer whose lantern seeks to illuminate the path and lessons for those seeking answers, the lessons to follow shall be deeply revealing and healing.
***When a pilgrim starts their journey, they prepare themselves with as many resources they can manage to carry. Because their journey is one of discovery, faith is perhaps their most important resource.
For this journey, the resources you need to get the most of out of this course, is understanding the core aspects of neuro linguistic programming (NLP) and Kinesiology.
Once these simple concepts are understood, you will be able to harness them to maximise your results. And it is we who have faith these tools will make your journey of discovery a truly meaningful one. Let's begin!
Stage 1, Step 1 - Neuro Linguistic Programming
Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), is the study of human behaviour, particularly the study of excellence, for the purpose of understanding the mental and emotional strategies used that produce consistent desired results. When these strategies are understood, they can be applied by anyone to replicate the same outcomes.
Let's break it down further.
The nervous system (the mind), through which our experience is processed via five senses:
Language and other non-verbal communication systems through which our neural representations are coded, ordered and given meaning. Includes:
Words (Self Talk)
The ability to discover and utilize the programs that we run (our communication to ourselves and others) in our neurological systems to achieve our specific and desired outcomes.
In other words, NLP is how to use the language of the mind to consistently achieve our specific and desired outcomes.
Because NLP is a model for excellence, the following list of NLP Presuppositions are attitudes which lead to excellence. These are not rules and regulations, but a set of beliefs that one can incorporate into their lives to improve it.
The following acronym has been put together as a mnemonic device, to assist in recall.
Respect for the other people’s model of the world.
Behavior and change are to be evaluated in terms of context, and Ecology
Resistance in a person is a Sign of a lack of rapport. (There are no resistant people, only inflexible communicators. Effective communicators accept and utilise all communication presented to them.)
People are not their behaviours. (Accept the person; change the behaviour.)
Everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they have available. (Behavior is geared for adaptation, and present behaviour is the best choice available. Every behaviour is motivated by a positive intent.)
Calibrate on Behaviour: The most important information about a person is that person’s behaviour.
The map is not the Territory. (The words we use are NOT the event or the item they represent.)
(U) You are in charge of your mind, and therefore your results (and I am also in charge of my mind and therefore my results).
People have all the Resources they need to succeed and to achieve their desired outcomes. (There are no unresourceful people, only unresourceful states.)
All procedures should increase Wholeness
There is ONLY feedback! (There is no failure, only feedback.)
The meaning of communication is the Response you get.
The Law of Requisite Variety: (The system/person with the most flexibility of behavior will control the system.)
All procedures should be Designed to increase choice.
***Think of NLP like a map for your journey, etched by explorers gone before you, created to guide you on the path to transformation.
Stage 1, Step 2 – Kinesiology
Originating in the 1960's, kinesiology combines Western techniques with Eastern wisdom to promote physical, emotional and spiritual health.
Kinesiology identifies the elements which inhibit the body's natural healing process - relieving pain, stress, muscular and nervous imbalances, detecting sensitivities and nutritional imbalances. It assists with psychological and learning disabilities, stimulates natural internal energies and releases the untapped potential of the individual.
Kinesiology is defined primarily as the use of muscle testing to identify imbalances in the body's structural, chemical, emotional or other energy, to establish the body's priority healing needs, and to evaluate energy changes brought about by a broad spectrum of both manual and non-manual therapeutic procedures.
A fundamental premise of Kinesiology is that the body has innate healing energy and is at all times doing its best to care for itself, but that sometimes it needs to be helped into a better position to achieve this care.
Kinesiology also recognises that there are flows of energy within the body that relate not only to the muscles but to every tissue and organ that go to make the body a living, feeling being.
These energy flows can be evaluated by testing the function of the muscles, which in turn reflect the body's overall state of structural, chemical, or emotional balance. In this way Kinesiology taps into energies that the more conventional modalities overlook. Kinesiology looks beyond symptoms, does not treat named diseases, nor does it aim to diagnose them, as it is more concerned with correcting imbalances in the body's energy, so that the body can function at its optimum to care for itself.
In this respect, Kinesiology has close links with the acupuncture concept of energy flow, used in Traditional Chinese Medicine for thousands of years.
Where, as the result of injury, emotional trauma, nutritional or other unresolved stress, the energy flow is interrupted, the whole body is affected. The exact nature of blockage in the energy flow can be more closely identified by 'muscle testing'. Acupressure massage, light touch and other simple correction skills are used to restore muscle 'balance', which has a flow-on effect into total body energy.
Kinesiology is often called 'muscle balancing' or 'energy balancing' - helping the body into a better position to heal itself or reach a specified goal by 'balancing' its energies.
Kinesiology is not limited to dealing with ailments. Energy balancing brings a person closer to achieving any goal of their choice - in sport, relationships, learning or coping with life generally.
This energy balancing that is at the heart of Kinesiology may involve dealing with one or more of the stress factors already mentioned: identifying a nutritional lack or excess, clearing a negative emotional component, relieving pain, stimulating the integration of muscle groups, or improving mental and physical coordination.
There are a number of techniques that can be used to deal with emotional stress and trauma, that can be done without the aid of a kinesiologist and these are included in this course. Learning these simple and effective tools can assist you throughout your life.
***If NLP is the map, kinesiology is the barometer.
Stage 1, Step 3 – Meditation
Meditation is a practice in which an individual uses a technique – such as mindfulness, or focusing the mind on a particular object, thought, or activity – to train attention and awareness, and achieve a mentally clear and emotionally calm and stable state.
Meditation is practiced in numerous religious traditions, but in more recent times found application in non-spiritual contexts, such as business and health.
Science has sought to understand the process and affects of meditation and this has resulted in advancements in technologies which aim to entrain brain-waves using sound to attain a certain mental state such as greater focus, reduced stress and improved sleep. This type of meditation is called binaural beats.
Binaural Beats is a natural phenomenon that occurs in your brain when the brain hears two tones with slightly different frequencies, by interpreting it as a beat of its own, matching your brain activity to a frequency set by the frequency of the beat.
Hertz (Hz) is the unit that frequency is measured in. Named after German physicist Heinrich Hertz due to his work with radio waves, in terms of frequency, Hertz is a measure of one whole wave cycle per second.
Everything has a frequency, but hertz are usually used in the case of measuring things that have more than just one frequency. There are five different brain waves measured using this frequency:
Delta: 1-4 Hz. Delta is the lowest frequency state, and it’s linked to:
Healing and pain relief
Anti-aging: cortisol reduction/DHEA increase
Access to the unconscious mind
Theta: 4-8 Hz. Theta binaural beats benefits include:
Alpha: 8-14 Hz. When you are in an alpha state of mind, your brain is focused and productive. Alpha brain waves help you to:
Relax and focus
Maintain positive thinking
Increase your learning capabilities
Easily engage in activities and the environment because you are in a state of flow
Beta: 14-30 Hz. Beta is a higher frequency brainwave and helps in:
Keeping your attention focused
Analytical thinking and solving problems
Stimulating energy and action
Gamma: 30-100 Hz. With a higher frequency than beta, these brain waves help in:
Increased cognitive enhancement
Attention to detail, helping in memory recall
A different way of thinking, which is a sign of creativity
Benefits of binaural beats include:
Increased creativity and cognitive enhancement
Reduced anxiety and improved mood
Helping you enter a meditative state
Improved sleeping habits
Helping to improve focus, attention, and memory retention
Hertz (Hz) is the smallest, basic measure of frequency.
Kilohertz (kHz) represent thousands of hertz.
Megahertz (MHz) represent millions of hertz.
Gigahertz (GHz) represent billions of hertz
Music is made up of waveforms that oscillate at different frequencies and in general, hertz are most often used to describe musical and sound related frequencies. 1 Hz is the frequency when a sound wave completes one whole cycle in one second. 10 Hz is the frequency when a sound completes ten whole cycles in one second.
Frequency is more about speed and time than volume of a waveform, which is more about size of the vibration, or amplitude. Faster wave movement equates to a higher pitch, meaning different musical notes match different frequencies.
Musical instruments are tuned to 440 Hz using a tuning fork. This is standard across the world so that anybody can accurately replicate the sound of a music score anywhere.
Instruments and human voices are much more complex than computer generated sine waves, because they produce multiples of the core frequency, not just a single core frequency. These multiples are called harmonics, which we will be discussing in more detail later. A harmonic frequency is simply a multiple of the fundamental frequency. If the fundamental frequency is 100 Hz, the third harmonic is 300 Hz.
Prior to the 1880's when the Italian Music Commission decided that all musical instruments should be tuned using a tuning fork that vibrates at 440 Hz; later adopted across the globe, musical instruments were tuned to 432 Hz frequency because of its pure tone of math fundamental to nature, which transmits beneficial healing energy.
The number 432 is considered sacred because it is mathematically consistent with the universe. The universe is based on harmonic series such as 72, 144, 432. And 144 (a "C" tone in hertz) is a perfect harmonic of the speed of light. The heart has the least effort for pumping blood to endocrine glands, when operating in a rhythm of 72 beats per minute, it beats literally with the hologram of the planet and the universe and is understood to be the foundation beat of compassionate love.
According to musician and researcher Brian T. Collins, the standard pitch of 440 Hz does not harmonise on any level that corresponds to cosmic movement, rhythm or natural vibration. The greatest musicians, such as Mozart and Verdi, based their music on the natural vibration of A=432 and it has been found that this original tuning was used in ancient cultures and is found on antique instruments like the stradivarius violin, archaic Egyptian instruments that have been unearthed, Tibetan monks hand-made instruments and the ancient Greeks predominantly tuned their instruments to the 432 Hz frequency.
You might wonder, why on earth are we talking about frequencies? Because everything is in a constant state of vibration. Sound is the most basic state of vibration. All things have a peak range of vibration, which is referred to as resonance. In physics, resonance means a sound produced by a body vibrating in sympathy with a neighbouring source of sound. In your body, every cell, every organ absorbs and emits sound that has a particular peak resonate frequency, which is how sound can be used to heal the body. When we are in resonance, we are in balance.
Our planet has its own frequency known as the Schumann resonance, which beats from 7.82-8 cycles per second. As shown above, 8 Hz is the alpha brain wave rhythm which synchronises our brain hemispheres, which awakens 90% of the unassigned neo-cortex of the brain, causing the operation in all brain cell dendrites (short branched thread like extensions of a nerve cell, which conduct impulses towards the cell body) maximising the possible flow of information.
The brain wave range for our normal conscious waking state is 14-40 Hz, which only uses some brain cell dendrites, with the predominant centre of activity in the left brain, which processes the flow of information at a much slower rate, like using an old 386 computer processor, compared to the super fast Intel Core i9 of today. However, operating at 8 Hz is like using a super computer with our consciousness heading towards super consciousness.
Hertz in technology is the same as in music; it measures frequency, but most commonly, the thing that is being measured is usually electrical changes.
Having technology that can induce brain waves at 8 Hz frequency is revolutionary because of its capacity to propel humankind. Understanding the relationship between the frequency of the universe, our planet, sound and electrical frequencies and our heart beat and brain waves, goes part of the way to truly understanding the symbiotic nature between all things.
Take some time to listen to the below audio which uses binaural beats to induce Alpha brain waves between 8-13 Hz. You don't need to listen to the entire 2 hour track, but it is recommended to listen for at least 30 minutes. To perceive the effects of Binaural Beats headphones are required!
We recommend you experience listening to binaural beats for Delta, Theta, Alpha, Beta, Gamma. You can find these by clicking here.
Since 1991, the HeartMath Institute has developed reliable, scientifically validated tools that help people reduce and avoid stress while experiencing increased peace, satisfaction and self-security. Research at the HeartMath Institute shows that, adding heart to our daily activities and connections produces measurable benefits to our own and others’ well-being.
There is a section toward the end of the course which provides you with links to excellent programs that you can trial for yourself.
***If NLP is the map and Kinesiology the barometer, meditation is the compass for your journey.
***A sacred scroll, handed down from their father, was amongst the few possessions the pilgrim took on their journey. This scroll contains a list of guiding principals for life. They had been a type of moral compass for generations, one that provides an insight into a balanced mindset to guide the pilgrim on their journey, together with the map, barometer and compass.
Stage 2 – Awareness
***A pilgrim may set about the journey on their own, but their path will always cross with others, at times needing help and companionship. Understanding the nature of man is an asset that cannot be underestimated on a pilgrims journey.
This section contains a series of lessons which provides awareness of how the mind works and how we can utilise this understanding to improve ourselves and how we relate to the world.
Stage 2, Step 1 - NLP Model of Communication
NLP began as a model of how we communicate to ourselves and others. It was originally developed by Richard Bandler, John Grinder and others. This model explains how we process the information that comes into us from the outside. The belief is that “The map is not the territory.” And so the internal representations that we make about an outside event are not necessarily the event itself.
Typically, what happens is that there is an external event and we run that event through our internal processing. We make an Internal Representation of that event. That Internal Representation of the event combines with a physiology and creates a state. “State” refers to the internal emotional state of the individual – a happy state, a sad state, a motivated state, and so on. Our Internal Representation includes our internal pictures, sounds and dialogue, and our feelings (for example, whether we feel motivated, challenged, pleased, excited, and so on). A given state is the result of the combination of an internal representation and a physiology. So what happens is that an event comes in through our sensory input channels which are:
Visual - Including the sights we see or the way someone looks at us;
Auditory - Including sounds, the words we hear and the way that people say those words to us, (unless you specifically want variety in form);
Kinesthetic - Or external feelings which include the touch of someone or something, the pressure, and texture;
Olfactory - Which is smell; and
Gustatory - Which is taste.
The external event comes in through our sensory input channels and it is filtered and we process the event. As we process the event, we delete, distort, and generalise the information that comes in, according to any number of several elements that filter our perception.
Deletion occurs when we selectively pay attention to certain aspects of our experience and not others. We then overlook or omit others. Without deletion, we would be faced with much too much information to handle with our conscious mind.
Distortion occurs when we make shifts in our experience of sensory data by making misrepresentations of reality. In Eastern philosophy there is a well-known story of distortion in the rope versus snake analogy. A man walking along the road sees what he believes to be a snake and yells “SNAKE.” However, upon arriving at that place he is relieved as he discovers that what he sees is really only a piece of rope.
Distortion also helps us in the process of motivating ourselves. The process of motivation occurs when we actually distort the material that has come into us that has been changed by one of our filtering systems.
The following is perhaps the best example of distortion?
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The third process is generalisation, where we draw global conclusions based on one or two experiences. At its best, generalisation is one of the ways that we learn, by taking the information we have and drawing broad conclusions about the meaning of the effect of those conclusions.
It is estimated we take in roughly 2 million bits per second of data from our external environment via our sense channels. However, only around 134 bits are capable of being processed by the brain. The brain is an information processing unit. It processes the information that comes in. It processes the information and turns it into an internal representation. And the internal representation is made up of sights, sounds, smells, tastes and our internal talk. In order to handle the 134 bits per second, it has to chunk that information, which it does into roughly 7 bits (plus or minus 2 chunks).
So we tend to take that 134 bits of information and group it into chunks, into manageable levels of information. Of course, many people can’t even handle this number, and some people are a “1 (Plus or minus 2).” How about you?
Can you name more than 7 products in a given product category, say chocolates?
Most people will be able to name 2, maybe 3 products in a category of low interest and usually no more than 9 in a category of high interest. There is a reason for this. If we didn’t actively delete information all the time, we’d end up with much too much information coming in. In fact, you may have even heard that psychologists say that if we were simultaneously aware of all of the sensory information that was coming in, we’d go crazy. That’s why we filter the information. The key here is that we tend to leave out a lot of information.
So, the question is, when two people have the same stimulus, why don’t they have the same response?
The answer is, because we delete, distort, and generalise the information from the outside.
James Gleick in his book Chaos: Making a new Science, said that the human nervous system cannot attend to things which are outside the realm of its experience and he essentially said the universe is probably a lot more chaotic than we think it is, but that the human nervous system is designed to impose order upon the chaos.
To put it another way, from an NLP point of view, the nervous system is designed to recognise patterns that exist amongst the content of information.
We delete, distort and generalise the information that comes in from our senses based on one of five filters. The filters are, Meta Programs, belief systems, values, decisions, and memories.
Look at some of these images. What do you see at first and then what do you see as you look more intently?
The first of these filters is Meta Programs. Knowing someone’s Meta Programs can actually help you clearly and closely predict people’s states, and therefore predict their actions. One important point about Meta Programs: they are not good or bad, they are just the way someone handles information.
Meta-programs are the keys to the way you process information. They are basically how you form your internal representations and direct your behaviour and can help you understand how people sort and make sense of the world. They also help you understand your own values, beliefs and behaviors. Here are the most common meta-programs:-
Toward or Away - Are you motivated from pain or gain? Do you move towards pleasure or away from pain?
External or Internal Frame of Reference - Do you put more stock in how you rate your performance, or do you look to feedback from others?
Sorting By Self or Sorting by Others - Do you first think about what’s in it for you, or do you think about what’s in it for others?
Matcher or Mis-matcher - Matchers are people who look at the world and see what they have in common. There are two kinds of mis-matchers, one looks at the world and sees what is different. The other kind of mis-matcher sees differences with exceptions. A mis-matcher will often do the opposite of what you ask, or be disagreeable.
Convincer Strategy - In NLP a strategy a specific sequence of internal and external representations that leads to a particular outcome. A convincer strategy involves what it takes to convince someone of something.
Possibility vs. Necessity - Do you get motivated by what you need, or simply what you want?
Independent, Cooperative and Proximity Working Styles - do you prefer to work on your own where the buck stops with you, or within a team with shared responsibility, or somewhere in between where you prefer to work with others, while maintaining your responsibility and independence?
The next filter is values. They are essentially an evaluation filter. They are how we decide whether our actions are good or bad, or right or wrong. And they are how we decide about how we feel about our actions. Values are arranged in a hierarchy with the most important one typically being at the top and lesser ones below that. We all have different models of world (an internal model about the world), and our values are the result of our model of the world. When we communicate with ourselves or someone else, if our model of the world conflicts with our values or their values, then there’s going to be a conflict. Richard Bandler says, “Values are those things we don’t live up to.”
Values are what people typically move toward or away from (see Meta Programs). They are our attractions or repulsion’s in life. They are essentially a deep, unconscious belief system about what’s important and what’s good or bad to us. Values change with context too. That is, you probably have certain values about what you want in a relationship and what you want in business. Your values about what you want in one and in the other may be quite different. And actually, if they’re not, it’s possible that you may have trouble with both. Since values are context related, they may also be state related, although values are definitely less related to state than are beliefs.
The next filter is beliefs. Beliefs are generalizations about how the world is. One of the important elements in modeling is to find a person’s beliefs about the particular behavior we are trying to model. Richard Bandler says “Beliefs are those things we can’t get around.” Beliefs are the presuppositions that we have about the way the world is that either create or deny personal power to us. So, beliefs are essentially our on/off switch for our ability to do anything in the world. In the process of working with someone’s beliefs, it’s important to elicit or find out what beliefs they have that cause them to do what they do. We also want to find out the disenabling beliefs, the ones that do not allow them to do what they want to do.
The fourth element is our memories. In fact, some psychologists believe that as we get older, our reactions in the present are reactions to gestalts (collections of memories which are organized in a certain way) of past memories, and that the present plays a very small part in our behavior.
The fifth element, and related to memories, is decisions that we’ve made in the past. Decisions may create beliefs, or may just affect our perceptions through time. The problem with many decisions is that they were made either unconsciously or at a very early age, and are forgotten.
These filters will determine our internal representation of an event that is occurring right now. It is our internal representation that puts us in a certain state, and creates a certain physiology. The state in which we find ourselves, will determine our behavior.
Remember that in this model the map, the Internal Representation, is not the territory. Our every experience is something that we literally makeup inside our heads. We do not experience reality directly, since we are always deleting, distorting, and generalizing. Essentially, what we do experience is our experience of the territory and not the territory itself.
In a study of communication at the University of Pennsylvania in 1970, the researchers determined that in communication, 7% of what we communicate is the result of the words that we say, or the content of our communication. 38% of our communication to others is a result of our verbal behavior, which includes tone of voice, timbre, tempo, and volume. 55% of our communication to others is a result of our nonverbal communication, our body posture, breathing, skin color and our movement. The match between our verbal and non-verbal communication indicates the level of congruency.
If our senses are the primary modalities from which we experience the external world, then SubModalities are distinctions (or subsets) that are part of each representational system, which encode and give meaning to our experiences. E.G.: A picture may be in Black & White or Color, may be a Movie or a Still, may be focused or defocused – these are visual SubModalities.
Changing the SubModalities can change the meaning of an Internal Representation.
According to the NLP Model of Communication, we:
mentally filter our experiences through the process of deletion, distortion and generalisation,
which are formed by our meta programs, values, beliefs, memories and decisions,
which constructs our internal representation of the experience,
which is intimately coupled with our emotional State of Mind and physiology,
which determines our behaviour, or how we respond to the experience.
When you become more aware of your distinct way of processing the external world, you can start to master how you relate to it. Most of this processing of information occurs outside your awareness, or unconsciously. For this reason, we will be discovering how the unconscious part of your mind operates.
Because of how we filter our experiences, most people perceive something, then name it, interpret it, compare it, like, dislike, or call it good or bad. They are imprisoned in thought forms, until they gain a state of clarity.
***The lone pilgrim uses their map to navigate around difficult terrain. But the map is not the territory, and the terrain often forces them to deviate from the path. When combining it with their barometer, compass and the sacred scroll, they can traverse difficult encounters and terrain with greater ease, coming back on track with a more enriched experience and understanding of the environment and those within it.
Stage 2, Step 2 – The Unconscious Mind
The brain operates by balancing two primary systems, emotion and reason, just as life occurs through the union of two opposing energies; the masculine and the feminine. It may appear that emotion and reason are in at cross-purposes, but they are two sides of the same coin and balance each other out. Both are necessary for optimal brain functioning.
Our mind is also organised into two distinct parts, the part we are aware of and the part we are not aware of. These are called the conscious and unconscious minds.
For example, you probably weren’t aware of the feeling of your back, against the chair, or the feeling of your feet, wherever they’re resting. You become aware of it when your attention is called to it. But it’s not something that you have an awareness of all the time. And that’s quite normal and natural.
It is necessary to have an understanding of this because your unconscious mind is your auto pilot and when that is working for you, instead of against you, you have a winning mindset.
Prime Directives of the Unconscious Mind
1. Stores memories
Temporal (in relationship to time)
Atemporal (not in relationship to time)
2. Makes Associations (links similar things and ideas), and Learns Quickly
3. Organizes all your memories
(Uses the Time Line. Mechanics is the Gestalt)
4. Represses memories with unresolved negative emotion
5. Presents repressed memories for resolution.
(to make rational and to release emotions)
6. May keep the repressed emotions repressed for protection
7. Runs the body
Has a blueprint:
of body now
of perfect health (in the Higher Self)
8. Preserves the body
Maintain the integrity of the body
9. Is the domain of the emotions
10. Is a highly moral being (the morality you were taught and accepted)
11. Enjoys serving, needs clear orders to follow
12. Controls and maintains all perceptions
Receives and transmits perceptions to the conscious mind
13. Generates, stores, distributes and transmits “energy”
14. Maintains instincts and generate habits
15. Needs repetition until a habit is installed
16. Is programmed to continually seek more and more
There is always more to discover
17. Functions best as a whole integrated unit
Does not need parts to function
18. Is symbolic
Uses and responds to symbols
19. Takes everything personally. (The basis of Perception is Projection)
20. Works on the principle of least effort
Path of least resistance
21. Does not process negatives
If I say 'don't think of a blue tree', you need to first think of it before you can forget it.
A core element of this program is to bring into your awareness the things that are driving your auto pilot and bring about a state of clarity.
When you become aware of the automatic behaviours that hurt you and begin to understand why you do them, it is very difficult to keep repeating those cycles.
***The pilgrim woke from the strangest of dreams, the details slipping away rapidly, the pilgrim tried desperately to hold on to it. But the dream was soon swallowed by the darkness. All they could recall was a sense that everything about the dream still existed in the dark recess of their mind and there was something strangely comforting about that.
Stage 2, Step 3 - Observing Other People
Modeling the famous hypnotherapist Milton Erickson, the creators of NLP observed that people make minute changes from moment to moment, and that those changes have meaning if you have enough Sensory Acuity.
Essentially sensory acuity means having observational powers and being able to calibrate physical differences you notice are taking place in the person you are communicating with. To be able to look across at the other person and compare the difference in their changes in behaviour.
An American anthropologist did a study at the University of Pennsylvania in 1970 called Kinesics and communication. What he discovered was that in communication only roughly 7% ends up being the words that we used, 38% by tone of voice and 55% by the physiology we use in the communication.
Words are important because that’s how we ask for things and tell people to do something. The fact is that 93% of what we communicate is unconscious and communicated unconsciously.
So, if we’re communicating unconsciously to others, we want to start doing that consciously. Consciously use that unconscious communication. By observing these unconscious changes, it enables you to stop mind reading and have more accuracy in calibrating what the body language is saying.
Noticing subtle shifts in the physiology which provides clues on where the other person is within the process of change. For example, if you notice the person you are talking to has their arms folded across their chest, it is easy to assume they are defensive, but what if they are simply cold?
Here are the key things to observe changes in.
1. Skin Color
Light - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Dark
2. Skin Tonus (The Tone of the Muscles – Look for the Shine)
Symmetrical - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Not Symmetrical
Fast - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Slow
High - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Low
4. Lower Lip Size
Lines - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -No Lines
Focused - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Defocused
Dilated - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -Undilated
***A pilgrims journey can be perilous, with danger waiting in many forms and while they have taken the path alone, the path will cross with many others. Some are kind, others are not. The pilgrim has developed and fine-tuned their powers of observation as a safeguard for the road ahead.
Stage 2, Step 4 – Themes
Five Principals for Success
Based on what you have learned so far, putting it together in this way can be a meaningful guide to success in whatever goals you decided to set for yourself, or pass on to others.
Know your outcome - set well defined goals
Take action - take positive steps towards reaching your goal. Get it out of your head and into the real world. Nothing equals nothing, so take action.
Have sensory acuity - your sensory perception will tell you a lot about your environment and noticing those things that can assist you in your goal
Have behavioural flexibility - remember the Law of Requisite Variety means the system/person with the most flexibility of behaviour will control the system. Read the situation with your sensory acuity and adapt your behaviour to suit.
Operate from a physiology and psychology of excellence - The NLP Model of Communication tells us that our internal State and Physiology are intimately related and determine our behaviour. Utilise this so you can operate at your optimum.
State vs Goal
We often fail to see the difference between goals and wishes, which are emotional states and/or values. The good news is that when you become more aware of how you process the world, your own internal representations of events, your unique model of the world, then you can begin to master your internal emotional state and behaviour.
One of the simplest things about human behaviour is that it is learned. The power in this is that we can relearn new and better ways of creating positive internal representations. Because our state and physiology are intimately related to each other, one can trigger the other.
Just for a very brief moment, only for the purpose of the exercise, think of a time when you felt sad. Notice how the corners of the mouth might turn downward, or how the shoulders may slump and the eyes look down and the head also slumps forward? In other words, notice how simply thinking of a time in your past when you felt sadness, your physiology shifted immediately?
Now, remember a time when you were supremely confident. Did your posture improve, perhaps the corners of the mouth turned upward, the tone of your skin may have changed, the eyes more wide and the head straight.
Whatever the changes were, just notice how our thoughts triggered them.
Understanding the different processes between setting a goal and changing your state, is this simple:
Value or State
Goal or Outcome
You can have it now
Time is involved
Steps needed to get there (get final step and work backwards)
Stated for self and/or others
Stated for self only
***The journey at times is demanding, unpleasant and depressing. No matter the physical strain, the mental toll was often the hardest to overcome for the pilgrim. Until they learnt the magic that occurred by simply recalling fond memories, which would galvanise and energise, even inspire them, where physical strain can simply evaporate. During these challenging times, the pilgrims memory was become their closest companion.
Cause and Effect is a proven concept by quantum physics, but it is also a way for you to realise you can take control of your actions, decisions and responsibility now. When you are sitting on the Effect side of the equation then you are looking outside yourself to find excuses and reasons for not achieving what you want. But on the Cause side of the equation, means you are in control of your actions, choosing to do what you want to do and taking responsibility for the success.
Cause equates to Results, whereas Effect equates to Reasons. Who is in charge of the results you produce?
If you are on the cause side of the equation, you are going to produce the results. If you're on the effect side, you'll have lots of reasons why you didn't get the results you wanted. Which is the most empowering side to be on? Unfortunately, the effect side is the side that most of society is on currently.
When you push the cause outside yourself, you will never get enough learning, enough information, so that you can create something differently, so you can create what you want. As long as you do this, then you are giving up your power to someone or something else.
***The pilgrim doesn't know if they create all the bad things that happen to them, consciously. But they have learned that the sum total of all of their conscious and unconscious choices, led them to where they are today. Because the moment they accepted that they chose the things that happened to them, even though they may have been unconscious, that was a moment of transformation for it reclaimed their power.
Embrace the situation so that you can get the learnings, because that is the key to our evolution.
When you replace, 'why is this happening to me?' with 'what is this trying to teach me?' everything shifts. - David Wolfe
***The pilgrim has discovered great power in taking responsibility for everything that happened on their journey.
Focus on What you Want!
You need to be in charge of your focus because energy flows where your attention goes.
A lack of clarity can create confusion, scattered focus, stress and difficulties in our relationships, while clarity actually helps us to focus, to take action and to feel calm and motivated.
***When a pilgrim is on their journey, making excuses for not having life the way they want it and arguing for their limitations is futile. The power lies in clearing the lens of their mind to see the world how they want it, with laser sharp vision.
Neuroscientists have a suite of tools that measure brain activity, such as fMRI and EEG. These tools can measure our thoughts because thoughts have mass; albeit small. Anything with mass has weight and is effected by the forces of gravity. The more weight you give to your thoughts, the more gravity will pull those things towards you. In other words, thoughts have a real mass in the real world, and with enough of the same thought forming together, things in the real world can be changed.
Have you ever dreaded something so much it weighed you down? If you think back on this, did you end up getting the very thing you dreaded?
Henry Ford said "Whether you think you can or think you can't - you are right."
Deepak Chopra said "Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past, or pioneer of the future."
***The pilgrims journey is made more perilous when their focus is based on fear or anxiety, because they draw those things towards them. To safely navigate their path alone, the pilgrim knows their thoughts must be based on what they want.
Perception is Projection
Creating a state of clarity begins with the understanding that your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. What you put out is what you get back. As above, so below. Attract what you want by being what you want. All of these sayings point toward the same principle.
"If you get the inside right, the outside will fall into place.” - Eckhart Tolle
An integral part of gaining a state of clarity, is becoming aware of the aspects of ourselves which operate in the shadows. The unconscious mind wants what is best for you, so unresolved problems must at some point become illuminated.
Because our mind filters incoming information by deleting, distorting and generalising it, you are leaving out so much information from what you see, hear, feel, taste, smell and self-talk; you're leaving out so much information that its not even possible to fully attend to every bit of information that comes to you.
"There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors of perception." - Aldous Huxley
It's not possible for you to attend to things you are not capable of attending to. We leave out a lot of information.
You can tell how you are doing on the cause and effect side, by looking at the people around you.
Carl Jung said "The information that is most unconscious in us, by need, must be projected out onto people and events around us."
The fact is, we cannot see anything other than who we are. That is to say, the aspects of us that we are aware of.
Albert Einstein said "We have looked to the far reaches of the universe, only to find ourselves staring back at us."
So, we unconsciously project onto the world, the very things about ourselves we need to resolve, or become aware of. This is our unconscious mind doing its job to ensure we learn so that we may evolve.
***At the beginning, the pilgrim experienced a great deal of anxiety around other people, as well as other unpleasant emotions like anger, disappointment, resentment and prejudice. Upon reflection, they began to see that they were simply seeing the aspects of themselves they didn’t like. Like looking through a window seeing everything as dirty, only to realise it was the window itself that was dirty.
***The pilgrim started to realise that they always did the best they could with the resources they had and that this seemed to be the same with most people. That we are all at our highest point of learning and that each of us play an integral role in the collective consciousness. From that moment, the pilgrim decided it was time to give up judgement of themselves and of others.
A neurotransmitter is a chemical messenger that allow nerve cells to communicate without touching each other. A neurotransmitter signal travels from a neuron, across the synapse, to the next neuron. The synapse is the name given to the space between the two neurons.
They are important in boosting and balancing signals in the brain and for keeping the brain functioning. They help manage automatic responses such as breathing and heart rate, but they also have psychological functions such as learning, managing mood, fear, pleasure, and happiness.
Your body has a vast network of nerves, which combine to make up your nervous system, that send and receive electrical signals from nerve cells and their target cells all over your body. Your nervous system controls everything from your mind to your muscles, as well as organ functions. In other words, nerves are involved in everything you do, think and feel. Your nerve cells send and receive information from all body sources. This constant feedback is essential to your body’s optimal function.
Neurotransmitters are the language of your brain, but they do more than just allow neurons to communicate to other brain cells. Muscles receive cues from neurotransmitters, too. In fact, these chemical messengers send information throughout the entire body.
When scientists first discovered neurotransmitters, they thought they were just in the brain. Until an experiment in 1957, when Wilder Graves Penfield, a American-Canadian neurosurgeon, drilled a hole in a woman's head to probe her brain with an electrode, in an attempt to find out if he could cure her epilepsy.
In the process he thought he discovered the seat of memory because he touched one of her neurons and in the spark that went across the synaptic gap, he found that she remembered everything from her birthday party when she was aged two. She could remember the smell of the birthday cake, the feel of the crinoline in her dress, she could see her parents and all of her friends the way they looked when she was two. A very clear memory of that birthday party.
This was written up in the Penfield study in 1957 where it was postulated that everything that happens to you is stored in your brain. Then in subsequent experiments on rats, what they found was they could take out the entire brain, but not the brain stem, and the rats would still be able to run the maze. Then in 1960 at Stanford University, Karl Pribram postulated that memory is stored holographically throughout the body.
In 1986 Deepak Chopra wrote a book called Quantum Healing where he stated that the neurotransmitter touches every cell in the body. He also says that the immune system constantly eaves drops on your internal dialogue, because of the ability of the neurotransmitter to effect every single cell in the body.
The discovery of the neurotransmitter is the mind/body connection that has been spoken about in Eastern philosophy for millennia. Everything that goes on in your mind is capable of being transmitted at any moment to the cells and to every single cell in your body, meaning our internal representations are constantly being transmitted to our physical body.
The process of change occurs in an instant. It may appear that change has taken time to occur, but in fact change itself happens in a flash. Here is a simple outline of the process of creating change.
First, get clear on what you want. Understand your values and beliefs and how they may be limiting you in some way
Release negative emotions, limiting decisions and conflicting values
Take Action. Get it out of your mind and into reality by taking action steps toward your outcomes. This may include you setting boundaries and enforcing them when needed
Focus on what you want. Your evaluations in the present moment become suggestions to your unconscious mind
The field of self-help is self-actualising; meaning it continues to evolve. It's journey is often symbiotic with scientific discoveries such as the neurotransmitter, string theory and the notion that up to 29 dimensions are lost to us and in physics, the act of measurement changes the thing being measured.
Quantum physics has shown that our thoughts are modifying matter. The Wave and the Particle is the story about a experiment known as the Double-Slit, which is a demonstration that light and matter can display characteristics of both classically defined waves and particles; moreover, it displays the fundamentally probabilistic nature of quantum mechanical phenomena.
The objective was to analyse at the atomic level, the direction of particles. The first time the experiment was carried out without anyone seeing it, which got the first result. But as soon as the experiment carried out with someone watching, it got a second different result. At the time, scientists thought it was a mistake, but through numerous well-documented experiments it has been shown the results were always the same, for thought acted on matter at the quantum level.
The smallest building block of our Universe, the electron, when it's not being observed, behaves in a Wave state, until it's observed, then it changes to a Particle state. Meaning, electrons respond to a person's interaction with it. The person observing actually affects the outcome of the experiment.
They exist in a state called “Quantum Superposition”, where truly every possible outcome exists, all at the same time.
The Wave is when everything exists in pure possibility, while the Particle is what reality is, right now.
Karl Pribram said "The human nervous system is a hologram of the universe."
Much of these discoveries and philosophies have driven exciting changes in how we evolve as humans.
The Old Model
Cause and Effect was a presupposition
The past creates the present and the future
There is an objective world
I have to know everything!
Brain, neurons, neurotransmitters, organs as all separate
Separation of "others" and "me"
The New Model
Cause and Effect as proven by quantum physics
Everything is created in the "NOW" and we can transcend time
We are intimately connected to all there is
Confusion precedes a higher level of order
Holographic, non-local and integrated
Everyone and everything is totally interconnected
So, if simply observing, we can affect the smallest building blocks of the Universe, with no expectation or goal, then what do you think is possible if we focus on a specific outcome?
The answer is clear.
George Bernard Shaw said - "Those who cannot change their minds, cannot change anything."
The sway of your personal evolution impacts those around you; your family and friends, which in turn impacts your community and then the broader society, your nation and the world. If you want to change the world, start with yourself.
In all change work, consequences should be considered. We call this ecology!
For example, you might think you want to have more energy all the time, but what if you can’t sleep very well? What if your low energy levels relate to you not sleeping very well?
So, behaviour and change are to be evaluated in the context in which they occur and the ecology of the change.
How different would the world be today if all people, corporations, institutions, governments and their agencies considered the consequences of their actions from a global perspective?
We recommend everything be passed through the ecology check, which is simply considering the signs of consequences for yourself, family, friends, business, society and the planet.
***The pilgrim has learned through their journey, that everything is connected. There is a symbiotic relationship between all things and as such, has come to respect nature and become open to what it must teach.
Stage 3 – Goals
A recipe gives you all the ingredients you need to make a meal, together with the measurements and the method. It's unlikely you will end up with the same meal each time, unless you follow the recipe precisely. Setting goals is the same.
***The goal of the pilgrim was to take the journey because they believed it would lead them to riches. And because they valued those riches so much, the drive to get to the destination was great. Yet the pilgrim would be faced with many delays and disappointments, until they learned the secret for creating their future.
Stage 3, Step 1 - Setting Your Goal for this Course
Setting goals is normal human behaviour. We all set goals, but setting yourself up for success depends on a number of factors.
Step 1 - SMARTS GOALS
Most people set goals like, "I want to lose weight". This is not a goal, it is a wish. To convert a wish to a goal it needs more meat on its bones.
First up, be specific; how much weight exactly and by what date specifically? Then it needs to go through some checks and balances like, is it safe (for myself, others and the planet), am I being realistic, is this attainable and in your mind, can you see yourself as if you already have it?
Here are the steps
Specific: Your goal statement should make it clear exactly how you need to focus your efforts. to be specific, a goal should answer the questions: who, what, when, where and why.
Measurable: You want your goals to be measurable so you can track your progress. This portion of your goal statement will answer the questions how much or how many.
Achievable / As if now: Your goal should challenge you, but reaching it shouldn't be impossible. You need to be realistic when setting your goals; otherwise, you will be setting yourself up for failure (and frustration). And stating it in the present as if you already have it, is a critical unconscious driver.
Relevant: Does your goal matter to you? Will achieving it bring you closer to your ultimate vision? You have to make sure that your goal fits in with the bigger picture of your life.
Time-bound: The deadlines you set for your SMARTS goals will prevent less important tasks from getting in your way and delaying progress. You'll be able to keep your priorities straight when you have the sense of urgency that comes along with a deadline.
Safe / Sustainable: Ask yourself if your goal is safe and sustainable for yourself, others and the planet.
Because it is our unconscious mind that is running us on auto pilot most of the time, we need to understand how to present things to it.
How we unconsciously store memories on our internal time line is important here, because it simply has a collection of memories and future desires it stores and doesn't care about the difference.
So, if we create our goal in our mind as if we already have it, meaning we can see it looking through our own eyes, feeling the feelings you imagine you would get having reached it, hearing the sounds of perhaps being congratulated and really feel the emotions strongly, any tastes and smells you can throw in there to really make it believable as if it is really happening in the moment, then your unconscious mind stores that as a 'memory', albeit a future one.
Because our unconscious mind is our auto pilot, it has this 'memory' of you and will set about ratifying it, instead of sabotaging it.
By following the SMARTS goal technique, you are on your way to success, but what many are unaware of is how we self sabotage our goals, because of our limiting beliefs and negative emotions.
For example, your goal may be to join the gym to lose weight, but you have a fear of failure. That fear comes from the belief that your weight problems come from genetics you have no control over. In the next lesson on Beliefs, you will learn from Dr Bruce Lipton that our perception of our environment can determine the expression of our genes, so we know it is something you do have control over.
In this lesson, you will create a goal for this course using the SMARTS technique.
Please take the time to write down your goal now.
Here is an excellent example of a SMARTS goal.
"It is the end of June 2023 and I am standing in my bathroom on the scales and feeling a huge sense of pride and joy because I can see I am now 70kg. I can't help but blurt out 'I did it' as tears well in my eyes and a warm feeling of pride emanates from my heart while I am looking at myself in the mirror and feeling my waist. I am so happy about how I look and feel I want to capture this moment forever."
Let's break down the above so you can see how it meets the SMARTS structure.
The goal is Specific, because it states the exact desired weight and timeframe.
The goal is Measurable, because you can weigh yourself to check your progress.
The goal is Achievable, provided you have set sufficient time and it is not unrealistic for you to be that weight. The goal is also stated as if you already have reached it.
The goal is Relevant, because it is about your health.
The goal is Time-bound, because it sets the date in which you are to reach it.
The goal is Safe/sustainable, because the weight you set is safe for you and realistically sustainable and it doesn't hurt anyone or the planet.
Step 2 - Unearth Conflicts
As you read your SMARTS goal, ask the following questions and write down the answers that come to your mind. This is where we get to unearth the beliefs and emotions that may cause you to self sabotage.
In the context of reaching your goal, ask:-
1. What would happen if you did?
2. What would happen if you didn't?
3. What wouldn't happen if you did?
4. What wouldn't happen if you didn't?
Using a pen or pencil, write each of the above questions on a blank page, then write down the answers that come to you. Do not do this on a keyboard, write it down by hand.
Because our conscious mind organises information into about 5 to 7 chunks of data, it is highly likely you will be able to provide 5 to 7 answers very quickly, before you might draw a blank. If and when this occurs, think more deeply and seek more clarity because often the most important limitations lay below just the conscious mind.
***The pilgrim’s sacred scroll has been a treasure.
Stage 4 – Beliefs
Most people believe regular exercise and eating healthy food is good for you; however, most people do not personally eat healthy food and exercise regularly. They believe the facts are true, but they have not committed themselves to doing it.
Belief is a primary driver of how we experience the world. When cellular biologist, Bruce Lipton, discovered that the expression of our genes is a result of how we perceive the world, it not only explained the phenomena of why those with the same genetics, can experience life events in a completely different way, it also brought into light how our beliefs play a critical role in our perception of the world.
***The pilgrim set about their journey because they believed there were riches to be found at their destination. This belief pushed them on through challenging times, but what they discover about themselves, would also challenge them.
Stage 4, Step 1 - Understanding their significance
Many of the beliefs we hold are formed through the process of modelling those around us and often at a very young age when we cant truly understand them until later in life.
The pilgrim believed there were riches only because it was told to them as a child.
We will learn about Developmental Periods in the Values section of this course.
The problem is our beliefs can become unconscious so we fail to reevaluate them. For example, at the age of four, you may have formed a belief that you are stupid because your older brother told you so. At four years of age we have little to no understanding of life, yet adopting this personal belief will play a significant role in your capacity to learn. So, it's easy to see how reevaluating your beliefs is critical.
Discovering the role beliefs play, provides us with deep insight into their mechanics and how they impact us daily. Because we live our lives on auto pilot, uncovering the unconscious beliefs behind our choices, provides us with the benefit of reflection and reevaluation; especially when those beliefs work against us. Clarity is the key!
Beliefs can be universal such as "the sun always rises in the east", to personal such as "I am not good enough". Some beliefs uplift and nurture us, while others negatively impact others and limit ourselves.
If our beliefs can sabotage us, then they can also empower and transform us. Do you believe you are worth it? If you don't then it's our belief that you need to continue with this program.
Those who live a happy and successful life, have the same amount of time each day that you do. The difference often lies in how they use their time and being congruent with their beliefs is often the key to their success.
When you respond to your situation, to be inline with a (often unconscious) belief and that belief does not support you, you are in conflict with yourself. By gaining clarity on these beliefs, we can reset them to be congruent with who we are and what we value.
Modern medicine has invested a lot to convince us to outsource our health to them. A pill for every ill. Yet it has been well documented throughout history in almost every scientific medical journal, that the most potent strategy for your health is the placebo effect, for belief is the foundation for its phenomenal effect.
The thing with belief is, they are always preceded by a decision. We get to decide whether to adopt a belief, or reject it. Therein lies your power. You decide! So what will it be?
Stage 4, Step 2 – Epigenetics
Epigenetics is the term to describe that gene function could be altered by more than just changes in sequence. In short, it means that we can alter the expression of our genes, through our perception of the environment.
Why is this important?
Because once upon a time it was believed that we were at the mercy of our genes, which could not be altered. Now we know that the mind plays an integral role in how we choose to express our genes, which is a completely different way of looking at the world.
The NLP model of communication, we know that we experience the world through our senses, but filter this information by deleting, distorting and generalizing it. Our memories, values, decisions, attitudes and beliefs determine how we filter it and represent this information internally. This is how we perceive the world, which impacts our state of mind, our physiology and these determine our behaviour.
So, here we have these two distinct fields of biology and psychology, coming to the same conclusion. That our unique way of perceiving our environment, alters our physiology. That we have the power within our minds to completely alter the expression of our genetics.
***The pilgrim noticed that the sea appeared to change colour, but it was the clouds in the sky that created the illusion and the sea had not changed. Through their newly formed powers of observation, the pilgrim notices the same applies to how they choose to see the world and simply changing their perception, can transform it like magic.
Watch the below video of Dr Bruce Lipton, explaining epigenetics.
Stage 5 – Values
If beliefs are behind how we perceive the world, values are what we seek in the world. They are our motivations, the things that often compel us. Like the pilgrim's desire for riches.
We know that all people are different. We also know that people are constantly evolving and maturing. A persons coping depends on their development, or evolution. Values are at the core of this and the beliefs and/or belief systems often sit behind them. The purpose of this course is for you to become aware of these unconscious drivers and identify conflicts that cause friction and self sabotage and use this important information to create meaningful change.
Some examples of human values are love, gratitude, respect, appreciation, listening, affection, and empathy towards other human beings.
We unconsciously organise our values into a hierarchy of importance and our values change depending on context. For example your core values for life may be:-
However, your values in relation to career might be:-
And your values in a relationship might be:-
In the above examples, it is easy to see how your career might clash with your relationship and your core life values.
Notice how Love is the most important core life value, but ranks third for relationships and is nowhere to be seen under career?
It is easy to see how our values can clash in different aspects of our lives. For example, if there is little or no Love for your career, how might that impact your Success and therefore Money; the two most important values in your career? If Love for what you do made an appearance in the context of your career, Money and Success often follow.
What if you Love your partner, but they have nothing to offer in terms of Security? If you have Love but not Security, would that be ok?
When you become clear on your values, you begin to understand what motivates and compels you; both good and bad. Learning how to alter them, is a key piece in the puzzle that is life.
***The pilgrim often accepted the kind charity of others, taking shelter and food, offering their services in exchange. Yet some places are inhospitable and one night, hungry and cold, seeking refuge from the weather, by accident they entered the wrong property and were met with hostility and violence. During this time, the pilgrim’s priority was to get to safety. Nothing else mattered!
Stage 5, Step 1 - Developmental Periods
Morris Massey was a marketing professor/sociologist and producer of training videos. During the late 1960s through the 1970s, as an Associate Dean and Professor of Marketing, at the University of Colorado at Boulder, he received four awards for teaching excellence.
Dr Massey was honored with the W.M. McFeely award presented by the International Management Council for "significant contribution to the field of management and human relations."
During the 1980s and 90s he was the #1 ranked resource for the Young Presidents Organization International. In What Works At Work (Lakewood Publications, 1988) he was cited as one of the 27 most influential workplace experts of the time. His work is focused on values, generations, and Significant Emotional Events.
Morris Massey has described three major periods during which a person's values and beliefs are developed.
(age 0 - 7) Imprint Period
(age 7 - 14) Modeling Period
(age 14 - 21) Socialization Period
Up to the age of seven, we are like sponges, absorbing everything around us and accepting much of it as true, especially when it comes from our parents. The confusion and blind belief of this period can also lead to the early formation of trauma and other deep problems. The critical thing here is to learn a sense of right and wrong, good and bad.
***The pilgrim was only six years old when they took on the belief that a pilgrimage would lead them to riches.
Between the ages of eight and thirteen, we copy people, often our parents, but also other people. Rather than blind acceptance, we are trying on things like clothes, to see how they feel about them first. We may be impressed with religion or our teachers. You may remember being particularly influenced by primary school teachers who seemed so knowledgeable—maybe even more so than your parents.
Between thirteen and twenty-one, we are very largely influenced by our peers. As we develop as individuals and look for ways to get away from the earlier programming, we naturally turn to people who seem more like us. Other influences at these ages include the media and social media, especially those parts which seem to resonate with the values of our peer groups.
Sources of Values
We typically form our core values from:-
Church or religion
Media, including social media
Stage 5, Step 2 - Evolution of Values
Abraham Maslow, one of the first psychologists to look at psychologically healthy adults, believed that Self-Actualisation represented the highest level of need and provided the "Healthy person's" prime motivation.
Clare Graves attempted to verify Maslow's work. He interviewed over a thousand of his students and asked them what they perceived as a healthy adult. He began to realise that values develop in response to environmental conditions that are moulded by our values and so on. He also discovered eight different ways in which people perceive psychological health and that these eight levels are developmental.
1. Beige— Band — Survival Oriented
2. Purple—Tribe — Tribal Oriented
3. Red— Empire — Aggression Oriented
4. Blue— Passive Hierarchy — System Oriented
5. Orange— Active Hierarchy — Materialistically Oriented
6. Green— Social Network — Group & Cause Oriented
7. Yellow— Functional Flow
8. Turquoise— Global Flux
Much more research has been done since, which confirms Claire Graves' theory.
There are three elements to a Values System. First of all there is the container (the nervous system) in which the values are held. Then there is the environment, in which the person lives. These two determine and effect the values content, which is what we most normally think of as being values.
The Values Levels
The essence of human survival
Uses deep brain programs and senses
Distinct self is barely awakened
Lives much as other animals but better
Minimal impact on environment
2—Purple: A Clannish “Us”
Obey desires of mystical spirit being
Show allegiance to elders, custom, clan
Preserve sacred places, objects, rituals
Bond together to endure and find safety
Live in an enchanted, magical village
Seek humanity with nature’s power
3—Red: My Powerful “Self”
Every man for himself
Express self, to hell with others
Escape domination by others or nature
Avoid shame, feel no guilt, get respect
Gratify impulses & senses immediately
Fight to gain control at any cost
Be not constrained by consequences
4—Blue: A Righteous “Us”
What is bigger than me, a guiding singular force, bigger than you
Find meaning and purpose in life
Sacrifice self to the way for the Truth
Bring order, stability, and future reward
Control impulsivity through guilt
Enforce principles of rightful living
Divine plans puts people in proper places
5—Orange: My Strategic “Self”
If it ain’t broke—then break it & make it even better
Strive for autonomy and independence
Seek out “the good-life” and abundance
Progress through the Best solutions
Enhance living for many through technology
Play to win and enjoy competition
Learn through tried-and-true experience
6—Green: Our Communitarian “Us”
Liberate humans from greed and dogma
Explore the inner beings of self/others
Promote a sense of community and unity
Share society’s resources among all
Reach decisions through consensus
Refresh spirituality and bring harmony
7—Yellow: An Integrated “Self”
The swing back into a “Doing” thing, the action again
Accept the inevitability of nature’s flows
Focus on functionality, competencies
Find natural mix of conflicting “truths’
Self-interest without harm to others
Experience fullness of living on Earth
Demands flexibility and open systems
8—Turquoise: An Holistic “Us”
Blending, harmonizing, strong collective
Focus on the good of all living entities
Expanded use of human brain/mind tools
Self is part of larger, conscious whole
Global networking seen as routine
Acts for minimalist living so less is more
Let's look at some examples of each of the eight levels listed above.
“Hey, that’s a good idea...
Why is a good idea, a good idea …
2 “…because our honored chieftain says it is so”
3 “…because it suits ME right here, right now”
4 “…because it conforms to the rule of Law”
5 “…because it serves my plans and objectives”
6 “…because we have reached consensus on it”
7 “…because it is the most functional approach”
8 “…because the living system ultimately benefits”
Notice how each values level oscillates between self and a group? We evolve from the perspective of "I" to "We" and back again.
The Core of Values & Ethics
Eventually, more complex thinking overcomes less complex thinking because it offers more degrees of freedom to act in ways appropriate to the environment or setting.
Patterns of the Whole
Sense of collective individualism
To serve the entire living system
Integrated Processes & Flows
To align conflicting alternatives
Personal responsibilities in being
Relative Needs of the Collective
Fit in with group’s norms & attitudes
Best serve the people’s common good
Situational Rules of the Game
Individual principles of conscience
Autonomy and self control to win
Commandments of Higher Authority
Comply with rules, avoid punishment
Duty (with guilt) to do what is right
Law of the Jungle
Impulsive drives & immediate rewards
Guiltless service of raw self-interest
Ways of the Tribe
Animistic beliefs & mystical signs. Serve the clan & ancestral ways
Hard times create strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men. Weak men create hard times. Each cycle is a response to the previous one, but with greater knowledge evolving the collective consciousness. The challenges require creative thinking, because you cannot solve a problem with the same thinking that created it. If we are living in the era of weak men, the cycle would suggest that the strong are coming. However, we cannot allow our uniqueness to be stifled, because it is diversity of thought which drives creativity and innovation.
These values levels can be observed at a corporate level, community level and national level. Which values level do you think fits with certain corporations and institutions, your community and nation as a whole?
***It was not long after the pilgrim, barely surviving as an orphan at the time, was taken in by the tribe. Level 1
***The chieftain taught the pilgrim their customs, sacred places and rituals which bonded the clan. Level 2
***But they always felt like the outsider they truly were and while grateful to the tribe, sought independence without the constraints of the dominating and controlling tribe leaders. Breaking away from the clan to be their own person, seeking self expression and gratification without shame and guilt, they began to put themselves first. Without the tribe for security, it seemed like a world where it was every man for himself, until their impulses led to an unfortunate accident and injury. Level 3
***Deep contemplation during their recovery, a shift occurs where the pilgrim believes there is a guiding singular force that is bigger than them. That divine plans put people in proper places and to find meaning in life we must sacrifice the self for the greater good. Level 4
***Having come from nothing, the pilgrim now sought to improve their life, competing for wealth and security. Level 5
***But it wasn't too long before they realised they had allowed greed to fester and instead sought to liberate themselves from dogma and began their spiritual journey, embracing those with shared values and goals. Level 6
***This taught the pilgrim about the natural flows in life as they embraced the fullness of living on Earth and learned that you can have self-interest, without harming others, or the planet. Level 7
***This focus on the good of all living entities and their symbiosis, they offloaded what they no longer needed and instead expanded their mental capacity, while also embracing the heart. Level 8
Stage 5, Step 3 – Values Transitions
If human values are the drivers of the evolution of the human psyche, it is meaningful to understand how we may transition between one level to the next.
Adopting new perspectives, new ways of looking at things, is the key here.
***The pilgrim took the journey because they believed there were riches to be had at the end. They have experienced many encounters and great challenges, which diminished their determination to reach the end. The pilgrim has started to question whether they have the drive to continue. The hope of a reward at the destination, is lost, the motivation almost completely gone at times, because what they have learned on the pilgrimage changes everything.
Stage 5, Step 4 – Steps to Elicit Values
Here is a step-by-step guide to eliciting your values.
Your task is to elicit the values in the aspect of life that your goal
belongs. For example, if your goal is to lose weight, this is the Health & Fitness aspect of your life, so elicit the values around Health & Fitness.
Ways of Eliciting Your Values
Download the values elicitation exercise above to assist you.
There are a few ways to elicit values. The first is a standard elicitation, which may not go deep enough and therefore only elicit what we think they should be.
Standard Elicitation: "What’s important to you about ___________?"
Health & Fitness
Ask the question in relation to the aspect of your life and write down the answers.
The second option is to use what motivates you in a particular aspect of life, which asks you to think more deeply about what truly motivates you.
Using What Motivates You:
a) “Can you remember a time when you were totally motivated in the context of _____________? Can you remember a specific time?”
b) “As you remember that time, what was the last thing you felt just before you were totally motivated?”
c) “Can you give me the name of that feeling?”
d) (Check if the word that comes up is of a too low level, by asking:) “What’s important to you about that?”
e) Continue with steps a) – d) until you get repeat words. These words represent your values.
Your Hierarchy of Values
Now will you please number the values according to their value to you? What's the most important? What's next, etc. (If this doesn’t work, then use a-b-c below.)
a) Of the above values, which is the most important to you?
b) Assuming you have (list values already chosen), is __________ or __________ more important to you?
c) Assuming you have (list values already chosen), if you couldn’t have ___________ but you could have __________, would that be OK?
Rewrite the list of values according to their importance.
(Optional) Elicit answers to the following (also ask for opposites)
a) How do you know when you’re _________?
b) What does that mean to you?
c) How do you know when someone _________ you?
d) What is your evidence procedure for _________?
e) What causes you to feel _________?
The more questions we ask, the deeper we delve into it and the more clarity we get about what truly motives us; what we really value.
While this exercise is in relation to your goal for this course, you can do this process for every aspect of your life.
***The weather became the pilgrim’s adversary, forcing them to seek shelter for several days. Thanks to the charity of a farmer, they had protection from the elements in a barn. It was during these days when the pilgrim had no company, no distractions, they were able to consider all the reasons why they should continue, or retreat. Suddenly in a moment of clarity, they could see what was driving them and things started to make sense.
Stage 5, Step 5 – Aligning Values
When aligning your values into their hierarchy of importance, do the following four tests.
1. Logical level of abstraction
Is #1 value the most abstract?
Are all other values a subset of the higher value?
Starting with the lowest value on the list, does this support the actualisation of the next higher value? (Continue until you reach #1 Value)
3. Motivation Direction
Is the underlying motivation (or value) what is wanted or what is not wanted? Look for:
a. Is it negating something?
b. Are you comparing it without specifying what you're comparing against? i.e "Because it's better"
c. Is it out of Necessity?
4. Conflicting Values Do any of the values in your list, conflict?
Possible Conflicts in Values
As discussed earlier, values can be incongruent or conflict with each other. Understanding the intention or purpose of a value, will help you determine possible conflicts. Namely, is the value moving away from something you don't want, or is it moving towards what you do want?
For example, a top value in your career aspect may be Money. When you ask yourself, "for what purpose is this of value" an answer might be "so I can have security", or it might be "so I am not in poverty". The first may be seen as positive as it has a motivation direction moving toward security, while the second may be seen as negative, because it is moving away from poverty.
Those away values should be studied because they often have limiting beliefs and negative emotions behind them.
People mirror societies, but societies also mirror people, so it's easy to see how values have global implications, especially given that people can outpace society with their personal growth. Changing the world starts with yourself.
In the next lesson, you will learn the process of building rapport, an important process for transforming the world.
***As soon as the weather turned good, the pilgrim was eager to continue their journey, for the solitude of the barn, had allowed them to collect and organise their thoughts in a way they had never done before. This time, the purpose of the journey had shifted. The drive was no longer about the destination and more about the journey.
Stage 5, Step 6 – Changing Values
We perceive the world through our five senses, which we call modalities. The subsets, or finer distinctions of these, are called submodalities. We can use these to distinguish the finer differences in how we represent things in our mind. For example volume, rhythm, clarity, pitch etc are all subsets of hearing.
Changing submodalities is like changing an ingredient or method in a recipe. You might have come across a recipe that you thought was good, but when you replace or alter the measurement of an ingredient, or perhaps you may poach something instead of fry it; whatever the adjustments are, they will give a different result and, in some cases, a small change can make a massive difference.
How we think about things is the same. Those subsets, or finer distinctions of your senses, can be used to distinguish the finer differences in how we represent things in our mind, in the same way small changes in a recipe change how it tastes.
Download the submodalities checklist
Let’s say that in the context of relationships, you want more Trust, but you found it is the fifth most important thing behind
By eliciting the submodalities for each one you can compare them to see how the internal representation of each differs. This is called contrastive analysis.
If you want Trust to be the most important value behind Love, changing the submodalities of Trust to match Security, can cause a shift in your hierarchy of values.
Start with the most important value #1 and begin by asking yourself:-
“what is the picture I have?” Notice, is it: (go through all the questions on the submodalities check list and jot down the answers in column 1).
It is important to do the exercise quickly because we tend to naturally change our internal representations when we ponder on them too long, so move on from one question to the next rapidly, as fast as you can jot down the answers. If you can, have someone else ask the questions and take the answers for you.
We start with Visual questions because most people will have a picture in their mind.
When you get to the Auditory part, ask the question in the box "Are there any sounds that are important?".
When you get to the Kinesthetic part, ask the question in the box "Are there any feelings that are important?"
When you get to the end, break your mental state somehow. Clear the mind before you start on the eliciting submodalities for the next value. You might like to smell something, or imagine smelling something like popcorn. This clears the internal representation.
When doing the contrastive analysis across all the values, notice that some of these elements differ. The elements that are different are the critical variables in YOUR storage of a value. These elements that you found to be different may not be the critical elements in someone else’s storage of values.
Changing the submodalities in your representation of a value, can alter your behaviour. In NLP there are a number of techniques that can be used to change the submodalities and have the changes stick. We are not concerned with this here, but if you are interested in learning more about this, let us know in the questionnaire to follow.
As an optional extra, you can repeat the above exercise for another set of values in another aspect of you life and compare the differences. Doing this contrastive analysis can provide deep insights into the mechanics of personality.
***This sudden change of purpose for the journey occurred as soon as the pilgrim realised that love was more important than anything in the world. With the thought of love sitting sweet, bright and warm in their mind, they decided to harness this in the context of this journey, and everything started to change.
Stage 6, Rapport
If your beliefs shape your world, how much better would your life become when you are in rapport with it?
Having rapport is a vital part of how we relate to others and to ourselves.
***As they passed through a small village, the pilgrim whistled an ancient and long forgotten tune. Much to their surprise, they were joined by another, whose whistle harmonised with their own. They both caught each other’s eye, smiled and tilted their heads almost precisely in sync with each other. The familiarity was uncanny, yet these two were complete strangers.
Stage 6, Step 1, It's a process
So by now you have learnt that you decide what to believe, that it is your choice, and that these choices determine how you perceive the world. So, wouldn't it make sense if you were in rapport with those around you? How would your world be then? How would this impact your state of mind and enrich your relationships, assist you in navigating difficult people and fast track you to your success?
The good news is, rapport is a process that can be broken down into parts and then easily applied. It is a hallmark of a healthy and happy life, because it is the key to good relationships. We may be our own person, but we are not here alone. And our relationships are a cornerstone in the tapestry that is life. And if rapport with others can deeply enrich your life, imagine how being in rapport with yourself must be.
When you understand the mechanics of rapport and witness its effects, you can start to master the art of persuasion (with integrity) and suddenly you hold a powerful tool for creating the future you want.
The Process of Rapport
Rapport requires sensory acuity. The way you begin to do this is to become like them, because it’s a known fact that people who are like each other, like each other.
So rapport is a process of responsiveness. A process where we get into communication with someone and we find common things. Usually when people get together they will ask questions like, where do you live, or where did you go to school, or what team do you follow, what do you do for a job etc. These are questions aimed at finding common ground and we all do it consciously, but the process of building rapport in NLP is more unconscious, to the other person of course.
It is the process of matching and mirroring.
Matching, means doing the same as the other person. For example if they are are leaning on their chin with their left hand, match it exactly.
Mirroring, means doing the mirror image of the other person. For example if they are leaning on their chin with their left hand, lean on your chin with the right hand.
When you mirror and match somebody, this is another form of common ground. Where they unconsciously look across at you and say to themselves, “this person is just like me”.
It is known that communication is 7% words, 38% tonality and 55% physiology.
Here are the major elements of rapport for each category:-
posture, especially spine and head tilt
gestures, their talking gestures when its your turn to talk
facial expressions and blinking
voice, especially the last 3 or 4 words they say and use tone, tempo, timbre and volume
key words and phrases
common experiences and associations
Mirroring and matching the breath is one of the most subtle but powerful ways to gain rapport, but it is important that you put into practice all of the above. You may feel uncomfortable trying this process consciously because to you it seems obvious you are mimicking, but if you pay attention you will notice it is a natural phenomenon and while it is very obvious to you, it won't be to others. What they will likely notice, is that they like you.
So, all we are doing here is using our sensory acuity to notice the subtle traits in a persons unconscious communication, and feeding back to them. This process acts like a tuning fork as it induces a change in state through a cooperative flow of energy. This is a form of harmonic resonance.
Watch Tony Robbins describe the process in the video below and start to incorporate it in your life, then watch your relationships improve.
Four Indicators you have Rapport
1. Feeling of warmth inside yourself
2. Colour change (blush in other person, or feel it yourself), usually about a minute after the first indicator
3. Statement (may or may not happen) like “are you a Capricorn?”, “I feel like I’ve already met you before”
4. Leading the other person to shift in the same way you do
Putting it to the test
Note, when you get into rapport with another person, you will likely match their internal state of mind. So it is important for you to know this, because you don't want to be adopting a negative state of mind. When you try this out for yourself, do it with someone who is in a positive mindset.
You know the indicators of rapport, but to really know for certain, after you think you have rapport, be the leader and notice if they start mirroring and matching your physiology, tonality and/or words. Don't tell them what you are doing, just simply shift your physiology, change tonality and/or use some of their key words in your speech and if you have strong rapport, it is highly likely they will mirror and match you.
Once you become good at the process of rapport, it may be possible for you to do it with someone who is in a negative frame of mind, because you can lead them out of that and into a positive one.
***The pilgrim was drawn to the stranger. The sense of familiarity was compelling. Instantly they felt a connection, like they saw something of themselves in this person.
Stage 7- Emotional Cleansing
In the religion of theosophy and the philosophical school called anthroposophy, it was believed there exists a compendium of all universal events, thoughts, words, emotions and intent ever to have occurred in the past, present, or future in terms of all entities and life forms, not just human. Today, this is known as the Akashic records and the word is derived from the Sanskrit word akasa, which means sky, ether, or space.
In the Themes section of this program we discussed how electrons display a fundamentally probabilistic nature as a wave form, where everything exists in pure possibility, until affected by the observer. We have also discussed how our perception of sensory input is subjectively based on how our beliefs, values, attitudes and memories cause us to filter our experience. These observations convert the electron waves, where all possibilities exist, into particles that construct our reality, limited only by our perception.
Today, Quantum science recognises that empty space has a certain intelligence. How our perception converts our potential into reality, will determine whether this intelligence works for, or against you. It is not for no reason, it’s your ability – either consciously or unconsciously – to be able to get the cooperation of this larger intelligence which is functioning.
What you have learnt so far has laid the groundwork for the change work you are about to commence and this change work taps into the power of your unconscious mind and the quantum field, otherwise known as the akashic records.
In this lesson, you will learn the steps for releasing the negative emotions and limiting beliefs you have identified during this course. The process simply asks of you to follow along with your active imagination and let the process naturally unfold.
***The stranger was a shepherd who had taken the same path many times over. They knew the terrain and all its challenges better than any and the pilgrim was eager to learn everything, and this is where the journey was transformed.
Stage 7, Step 1 - Discovering the unique way you store time
By now you will have unearthed the beliefs you know to be limiting you in some way. By releasing them, we can replace them with something that supports and nurtures us.
The technique used here is Timeline Therapy. This is one of the most efficient regression techniques that is safe and easy to learn and apply.
We each have a unique way of storing time inside ourselves, so our mind knows the difference between the past and the future. To this end, the storage of our collection of life experiences is typically sequential and therefore implies a line, or timeline.
Imagine, if you will, that your life events are recorded on film, like a movie. The first scene is the beginning of the film and each scene thereafter follows it sequentially. If you were to open and unravel that film and lay it out, it would take the shape of a timeline. Or, you could liken it to your social media page, where the most recent posts sit at the top and they go backwards in time to the first post. If you were to print and lay them out, you would see a timeline of your posts. Your mind stores your memories inside itself in a similar manner.
For example, the vault inside your unconscious mind that stores your memories, when opened, a memory will come into your awareness from a particular direction. It may seem to be coming from behind into the front of your awareness, or from left, right, up, down or whatever. The older the memory, the further back in the vault it may be, taking longer to come into your awareness.
Understanding how you store time inside yourself is easy. Think of a very recent memory, such as the last time you ate and notice which direction that memory comes from. Then think of a memory from say a year ago, perhaps a birthday party or similar event. Then go back further in time and recall something in your childhood and notice again which direction the memory comes from. Did they all come from the same direction? For example, were these past memories coming back to front, left to right, right to left, down to up, up to down?
Many people put their past behind them, so memories come back to front. You hear this in common phrases such as "put the past behind you".
To utilise Timeline Therapy, all you need to do is use your active imagination and imagine the entire collection of your life's memories laid out in this way. We then utilise this concept of how you store time to unlock your full potential by cleaning up the past. This is done by removing the charge that is still attached to old memories. We do not alter the memories, only how we can use the experience to learn from and change the way we feel about them. This is in essence, human evolution.
As soon as you can use your imagination to lay your timeline out, you can use it to:-
Determine the root cause of the negative emotion or limiting belief
Preserve the positive learnings from the event, so it had its purpose and can be released
Release the negative emotion or limiting belief
Test the effectiveness of the change
The trick is to find the root cause of the negative emotion, or limiting belief. We often think they were formed from a significant and often traumatic event, but more often than not the first time you felt the emotion, or formed the belief, was insignificant.
Because your unconscious mind groups together events with the same emotions, creating what is known as a gestalt, the work must occur at the beginning of the gestalt, which in turn allows the emotion or belief to disappear entirely across the whole gestalt of memories. The critical thing here is to garner the positive learnings from these past events, so it has served its purpose for you, otherwise we risk repeating old behaviours until we finally get it.
If you need assistance working out how you store time, listen to the following audio.
If you were still unable to discover your timeline after the above audio, please listen to the following.
If you are still unable to discover your timeline, please email us at firstname.lastname@example.org before you proceed.
***When the pilgrim reflected on their journey, remembering all the events that got them to where they are, with the guidance of the Shepherd, they could see the entire sequence of events as though it was laid out in a line. The Shepherd taught the pilgrim the mental skill of floating and this provided a unique and detached way of reviewing everything and this is where the deepest and most meaningful changes began to occur.
Stage 7, Step 2 - Limiting Beliefs
To release a limiting belief, simply listen to the below audio in regards to a limiting belief and follow the instructions precisely.
Repeat the process for each limiting belief that you uncovered during the SMARTS goal setting process.
***The pilgrim realised the riches might not exist at their destination. There was nothing to suggest otherwise, it was merely a tale told to them as a child. That tale drove them toward this path because the pilgrim truly believed it was their destiny. They sacrificed so much for this, including love; but with the Shepherd’s guidance, that was all to end here and now.
Stage 7, Step 3 - Negative Emotions
There are common negative emotions that we know, when released, will make the biggest difference in how you perceive the world around you. They are:-
Clear up all the negative emotions in the list above, plus others you uncovered when setting your goal, by listening to the below audio, concentrating on one emotion at a time. Meaning, do the below audio for anger first. Then do a separate one for sadness. Then fear and so on, until you complete the entire list of negative emotions above plus those relating to your goal.
Simply listen to the below audio and follow the instructions precisely. It is important to do them in the order listed above. Any additional negative emotions you came up with during your goal setting process, add them to the list.
***Meeting the Shepherd was the most profound experience the pilgrim encountered on their journey. He helped them to see their past with altitude, detached and with curiosity and an intent to heal the hurts of the past. Their barometer, compass, sacred scroll and powers of observation, are only eclipsed by this newly found skill for floating.
Stage 8 - Toolkit for Triggers
Now that you know how to clear the negative effects of your past and have new and improved ways of living that nurture and support you, it's time to add a bunch of tools into your toolkit that will assist you in the moment.
This section aims to provide you with a series of simple and very effective tools for defusing triggers, overcoming overwhelm and bringing your state of mind back into balance quick.
***Now that the pilgrim takes responsibility for the results they get, they seldom get tripped up by the things that used to trigger them. The pilgrim is now ready to learn how defuse these triggers and the Shepherd has begun the lessons.
Stage 8, Step 1 - Emotional Stress Release
When we experience stress, be it emotional or physically generated, our bodies go through a series of biochemical changes that vary in intensity depending on the severity of the stress or trauma. One of the effects of stress is the imprinting of a series of negative factors which seem to almost haunt us.
We may forget an individual stressful incident but our biological computer stores the information and remembers the stress every time we encounter a similar situation. The result is a cumulative effect that leads to our being in distress almost continuously.
Emotional Stress Release is a neurological reflex technique used in kinesiology. It can be used for past, present and future (perceived) stress events. The right brain will accept your fantasy as a 'new reality' to replace past stress memories that are serving your badly.
Because the right brain is timeless it can be used as a time machine to go backward or forward and re-make the past, the present or create the future.
The technique is the same in all situations, eg. preparing for exams, job interviews, sports performance, or resolving old hurts and misunderstandings.
Its benefits are that it aids in rebalancing our emotions and releasing pent-up energy. The physical effects include a general sense of lightness and relaxation and a lifting of mental fog. Vision seems clearer and hearing appears to be more acute. Use it often. Relationships which are under stress can be helped immensely. Children respond quickly and easily to this technique.
The technique can be done anywhere. When sitting at your desk, overwhelmed and bombarded with demands for instant decisions, take a moment to do it by simply putting your hands on your forehead and let everything flow over you. After a few seconds, a priority of importance in the decision making or clarity of ideas will come. If you are a person who makes lists, now is the time to pick up a pen and make notes as the awareness comes. You will find the panic, overwhelm and nervousness you felt before have gone. You can move calmly and confidently through your day.
How does Emotional Stress Release work?
The technique activates reflexes called neuro-vascular points which bring more blood to the frontal lobes of the brain. Back brain thinking is the survival response mode. Here we generate automatic reactions based on the alarm and vigilance responses as well as on past experiences. Front brain thinking is creative, with new options and new alternatives. When we use the front brain we tend to find new ways of looking at old problems, new possibilities and alternative solutions.
The stress chemicals seem to have the effect of reducing front brain/back brain and left brain/right brain integration and thus prevent us thinking creatively under stress. This reverses this process and has the effect of reducing or erasing the biochemical trigger to the old stress memories and thus relieves stress.
Here are the steps:-
If possible, find a quiet space in which to 'be'. This is not essential but helps.
Close your eyes and lightly hold your frontal eminences. (Found on the forehead about 3 or 4 finger widths above your eyes, as shown in the image above)
Focus on the event or problem
See the details (be aware of the colours, sounds, shapes, smells and feelings involved)
Make it real (You may notice shallow breathing, flickering of your eyes or tearfulness)
Continue to hold your forehead,, breath and relax. These signs of stress will pass
Now play it as you would like it to happen. Fantasy is ok here
When your mind starts to wander you know the event is cleared of immediate stress
***The pilgrim was surprised that such a simple and subtle touch of the forehead, the very thing their mother used to do to calm them, could still bring such instant relief. They are learning more about the subtle energy pulses that exist all through them and reach out to the far reaches of the Universe.
Stage 8, Step 2 - Visual Inhibition
This is a real energy booster for people who fall asleep or feel tired when reading. Turning our eyes to the left or right, or moving them up and down, should not depress our energy levels or be stressful in any way. Movement should be energising.
Check the following eye movements for stress:
In assessing ourselves, we will look 'just a little further' because in each direction is to reveal possible movement avoidance.
1. Check your energy level (from 0-10)
2. Stand erect looking straight ahead
3. Turn eyes left. Observe any change in balance
Forward/no lean = OK, but continue evaluations
Any other lean = need for balancing
4. Turn your eyes just a little more to the left. Observe any change in balance.
Forward/no lean = OK, but continue evaluations
Any other lean = need for balancing
5. Turn eyes right. Observe any change in balance
Forward/no lean = OK, but continue evaluations
Any other lean = need for balancing
6. Turn your eyes just a little more to the right. Observe any change in balance.
Forward/no lean = OK, but continue evaluations 7,8,9,10
Any other lean = need for balancing
7. Repeat similar evaluations for up/down
8. Repeat similar evaluations for far/near
9. Repeat similar evaluations for front/back.
A rear vision mirror test is fun and worthwhile to evaluate possible stress when driving
10. Read right across the page for several lines aloud/silently. Repeat evaluations above
11. If you can, have a go at finding the emotion involved by simply asking your unconscious mind
Balance A - for left/right disturbances:
1. Look in direction (left or right) that caused weakness.
At the same time ....
2. Rub K27s with one hand while the other hand is held at navel.
Change hands and repeat.
Balance B - for up/down disturbances:
1. Look in direction (up or down) that caused weakness.
At the same time...
2. Rub the upper and lower lips with one hand while other hand is held at navel.
Change hands and repeat.
Balance C - for far/near disturbances:
1. Look in direction (far or near, whichever caused weakness).
At the same time...
2. Do balance A then B.
Balance D - for front/back disturbances:
1. Look in direction (ahead or behind) that caused weakness.
At the same time...
2. Rub tailbone with one hand while other hand is held at navel.
Change hands and repeat.
Balance E - for reading disturbances:
1. Read aloud or silently (whichever caused the weakness).
At the same time...
2. Perform balances A. B and D.
Sometimes this balance does not improve the reading, which may require a need for energy balancing skills by a qualified kinesiologist.
It is important to note that these exercises can be done as a quick energiser, without the eye movements. These neurological 'switches' assist with improving brainwave activity and therefore brain function.
***The pilgrim was always in awe of how the Shepherd had such sharp mental faculties, and amazed that when you know the right places to touch, you can switch on the brain like a light.
Stage 8, Step 3 - Meridian Energy Boost
Dr Richard Gerber MD in his book “Vibrational Medicine” describes the meridian system as the interface between the physical body and subtle energy bodies that surround us. We can use meridians to enhance our energy. We can boost either the meridian that is most active at any time of the day or we can do a general energy boost, which we call a meridian massage. The meridian system used in kinesiology is simplified from Chinese acupuncture (meridian therapy).
Acupuncture is based on the ancient Chinese philosophical concept that man is a small universe and a replica of the larger one. The same laws and vital forces of energy that keep the universe functioning govern every function of the body and mind.
It is worth noting at this point that the ancient Chinese were very advanced in their thinking. They had words for protons, electrons and atoms, and had conceived of the orbital arrangement of atoms within matter, matter within the earth, planets within the solar system, and galaxies within the universe. They saw this all as one vast indivisible entity and believed that all things are linked together in a harmonious balanced chain. Everything bad results from a violation of this harmony. Good is restored when harmony is restored.
Restoration of harmony of acupuncture. (Meridian therapy)
It is not the purpose of lesson to investigate meridian therapy in detail. Our aim is to give you a practical exercise using the only two meridians for a personal energy boost.
Western science has not completely come to grips with the inseparable relationship of man's body, mind and spirit with the elements and inanimate matter. Trying to translate these concepts into the Western scientific understanding is like trying to cut a hole in a cloud. Two things make it difficult for Western scientists. The first is the absence of any evidence of how and when acupuncture first emerged as a healing system. The second is a lack of verification of the existence of the meridian system itself and Chi, or vital energy, which is basic to the theory, philosophy and practice of meridian therapy.
The oldest known treatise on acupuncture is the Nei Ching. This 24 volume set is attributed to the Yellow Emperor Huang Ti, who is said to have ruled from 2697 to 2597 BC. Some Western scientists doubt the existence of Ti. However, we should remember the yellow Emperor's citizens lived in houses and wore cloth garments when Europeans still lived in caves and wore animal skins. The Nei Ching described a solar system of nine planets, whereas Western scientists did not discover Neptune until 1846 and Pluto until 1930.
While there are no double-blind studies to show that acupuncture works, Western Science typically does not fund studies into such areas, so the absence of double-blind studies does not mean it is disproven. In fact, there is much empirical evidence which shows remarkable success in cases of deafness, paralysis, epileptic seizures and mental disorders. Since 1956, controlled experiments on patients who had been pronounced incurable by traditional Western medical methods have shown astounding results in cases of glaucoma, asthma, hyperthyroidism, colitis, peptic ulcers, impotence and even heart disease. The meridians have today been mapped using electronic and radio graphic methods. However, it is not possible to dissect the meridians or to view them with any of the current scanning (Cat and MRI scans) techniques.
The current explanation is that meridians are hollow vessels passing through the body that contain a free flowing, colourless, odourless, non-cellular liquid. (Energy)
In the human body, the force or energy which controls harmony is called Chi. This energy has two different aspects called Yin and Yang. When the normal balance of yin and yang is disturbed, disharmony occurs, and illness results. In acupuncture, points on the meridians (acupressure points) are stimulated to adjust the chi back to its proper balance of yin and yang. In Western concept we think of yin and yang as negative and positive, but they are far more encompassing than this. It is probably easiest to understand chi as being the life force. When the life force is withdrawn, death results.
Health is related to the balance of this life force
It is also helpful to think of the meridian system as being a physiological or functional, rather than an anatomical system such as the nervous system.
While the Traditional Chinese Medicine have many meridians, kinesiology deals with fourteen major meridians. Of these twelve are bilateral (on both sides of the body) meridians, and two are mid-line meridians. In the meridian therapy understanding, every function and part of the body is controlled by one or more of the main meridians.
Ten meridians are associated with organs and their functions, and are named from the corresponding organ.
The other two, triple warmer and circulation sex meridians, are associated with functions rather than organs.
The triple-warmer meridian is a functional concept associated with utilisation and transfer of energy.
The circulation-sex meridian is also functional in concept and is associated with the protection and control of heart action, circulation and the mental and reproductive processes.
Energy reservoirs - Central and Governing
According to the Classical Chinese concept, meridian reservoirs unite, store and control Chi. The central meridian is the reservoir for Yin meridians and the governing meridian the reservoir for Yang meridians. They are considered as command meridians, which are involved in making all the other meridians work together. The two midline meridians do not have a special relationship with any one organ or function in the classical Chinese understanding. Applied Kinesiology has attributed brain to central meridian and spine to governing.
Horary cycle (biological clock)
Chi is said to flow through the twelve main meridians in a constant but undulating pattern of daily circulation. The circulation is always in the same direction and the pattern is known as the biological clock, or in Chinese terms, Horary cycles. This gives a very even flow of energy to the body in much the same way as a V12 car engine runs more smoothly than a four-cylinder motor, or three phase electricity power is more even than single phase. As in a motor, if one cylinder is not working properly, the whole motor is affected, so too in the body, if one meridian has poor energy flow, the whole body is adversely influenced.
Meridians can be personal energy boosters
During a 24 hour period, each meridian in turn undergoes a two hour peak period. In Chinese tradition, this is said to begin with the lung meridian at 3:00am, which draws energy from Central meridian (yin reservoir). At present, we have no means of demonstrating whether the circulation of Chi is actually a movement of the substance, a pressure or an intensity wave, or changes in strength in a magnetic force field. However, knowing that meridian flow is actually continuous, unbroken and moving from one meridian to another in a definite direction allows us to use a meridian acupuncture system as a personal energy booster.
We can boost either the meridian that is most active at any time of the day, or we can do a general energy boost, which we call a meridian massage. We will not be going into any further detail about meridians and the Horary clock in the context of this lesson, however, if participants express an interest in learning more, we will cover these in a future training.
Dr George J Goodheart DC was the first person to correlate the muscles of the body to the meridian acupuncture system. By utilising muscle testing, Goodheart was able to develop an objective method of evaluating meridian activity. Others have continued Goodheart’s work. Dr Bruce Dewe correlated the muscles in the hand, foot and pelvis to the meridians.
There are many ways of stimulating meridians
In kinesiology we tend to use digital pressure (pressure using fingers) at specific points, or a sweeping motion along the length of the meridian in the direction of the flow of Chi to stimulate that meridian.
The Central meridian starts in the centre of your pubic bone and comes up to the middle of the bottom of your lower lip.
The Governing meridian starts at the end of your tail bone (coccyx) and comes up the spine, over the head to the middle of the top lip.
Energy Boost Exercise
Your central meridian needs to be traced UP. Touch the beginning of the meridian and gently trace one to two inches away from the body towards the end of the meridian. Repeat 3 times.
The governing meridian needs to be traced DOWN. Touch your tail bone in the back and trace one to two inches away from the body over your head to the middle of your top lip. Repeat 3 times.
Stage 8, Step 5 - Meditation Programs
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Alan Hewitt interview
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***The journey has been long and challenging but rewarding in more ways than the pilgrim could imagine. They have discovered the secret to harnessing sound and its capacity to uplift the soul. Now there is a stillness, a calmness about them and a serenity that has softened the lines on their face. A sense of peace and oneness encapsulates them and their warm manner draws all kinds of wonderful things toward them, like a magnet.
Stage 9 - Philosophy for healthy living
Now that you have learnt the process of clearing out the old limiting beliefs and negative emotions, it's time to adopt new and improved ways of living, that support and nurture you.
Living in this modern world, we are continuously bombarded with information and often cut off from nature.
In this lesson, we discuss the best way to reconnect to nature and re-energise and destress.
***This pilgrim has discovered many things about false beliefs and how they can lead you down the wrong path.
Stage 9, Step 1 - Circadian Rhythms
A circadian rhythm, or circadian cycle, is a natural, internal process that regulates the sleep–wake cycle and repeats roughly every 24 hours. It can refer to any process that originates within an organism and responds to the environment (entrained by the environment). These 24-hour rhythms are driven by a circadian clock, and they have been widely observed in animals, plants, fungi and cyanobacteria.
When we disconnect from this natural cycle, mental and physical illness can occur.
Operating outside the natural circadian rhythms, can give you a sense of separation from nature and society, so making the necessary changes in your life to start operating within this cycle, is not only an excellent way of improving your mental, emotional and physical state, but a way to feel reconnected to nature and society.
***The pilgrim came to learn quickly what the importance of sleep was. Having traversed different time zones, they began to see the need to plug into the rhythms of the area they dwell.
Stage 9, Step 2 – Earthing
In an earlier lesson, we discussed how our planet has its own frequency known as the Schumann resonance, which beats from 7.82-8 cycles per second. A relatively new science has emerged through observing the electrical energy of the Earth, which explains the affects the earths electrical charge has on the body.
This is called Earthing, also known as Grounding and it has been shown that by simply connecting your skin to the earth can have positive effects on the body, especially anti-inflammatory and positive mental effects. The central theory is that grounding effects the living matrix, or the central connector of living cells.
An electrical conductivity exists within the matrix and this functions as an immune system defense, just like antioxidants. Its beneficial effects on the health of blood are well documented and grounding is believed to be a restorative agent of our natural defenses.
It's as easy as walking on the grass barefoot and it is free. Do it daily and notice the improvement in your mental and physical wellbeing.
Below is a link to the documentary "Grounding - The Grounded Documentary Film about Earthing", which goes for just over 1 hour. To fully appreciate the effects of grounding it is important to comprehend the science behind it.
Because the reality of our world today cuts us off from the connection to the earth, there have been a number of earthing devices engineered to ground you as you use them. Perhaps your job involves using a computer, so using an earthing mouse mat will provide you with the benefits while sitting at your desk. Or, you may live in a high rise apartment, so sleeping on a grounding sheet will provide you with the benefits of grounding while you sleep. If you are interested in learning more about this technology, click the link immediately below.
***The best way for the pilgrim to plug into the area they dwell, is to touch the Earth with their skin. This seemed to act like a reset button which entrained them into the natural rhythms of the area.
Stage 9, Step 3 - Minerals, the building blocks of your body
When supplementing our diet, most people go for the trusty old multi-vitamins. But what we fail to recognise is that those vitamins will likely go to waste, unless our body has the right amount of minerals to process them. A colloidal form of multi-minerals is highly absorbable by the body and provides key building blocks for optimal health.
Below is one of the best resources we have found describing the benefits of colloidal minerals. Hearing this reasonably short presentation may become one of the most important 'discoveries' for your health and longevity.
***The pilgrim knows you cannot put up walls, until the foundations are there. No amount of trying can change this.
Stage 9, Step 4 - 9 Principals for Wellbeing
Our modern life has been a major cause of disconnecting with the natural cycles of life and in fact, we have largely disconnected ourselves from real and meaningful contact with the earth. These nine principals for health are to serve as a reminder of what simple things we can do to reconnect.
Wholefoods (quality supplements where required)
Eliminate or transform toxic relationships
Have a Passion
Give up judgement
While this list may seem overly simple to some, our industrial progress has led us away from the fundamental basics for a healthy life. In fact, improvements in sanitation are directly correlated to improvements in preventable disease and life expectancy. However, modern commercial agricultural practices often taint our food and water with harmful chemicals and significantly depletes it of nutrients, unbalanced concepts about our exposure to the sun are keeping us from responsibly receiving its many benefits, mining practices together with water regulations are resulting in toxic chemicals being introduced into our water supply and those trying to live the Western dream, find themselves in mortgage stress which can get in the way of spending quality time establishing and preserving relationships, doing exercise and time for reflection, let alone following your passion. And with social media we compare ourselves to unrealistic ideals which lead us to disappointment and judgement of others.
If we truly want a happy and fulfilling life, it is important to take some small steps towards achieving it, and the above list will go a long way towards assisting you.
***Through their powers of observation, the pilgrim has learnt that there is a symbiotic relationship between all living things, that intuit knowledge which shattered many other beliefs they held about life. Now they have created their own sacred scroll to add to the original, so that it can be passed on to guide others.
Stage 10 – Abundant Magic
Because the unconscious mind is operating outside of our awareness, everything that you know, you do not know! Think on this for a moment.
Everything you have learned in this program, you do not carry around with you everywhere, but when you want it, it's always there. All you need to do is remember!
This is how the internet is used. It's not necessary to carry all information around with you all the time, but when you need it, you search for it and there it is. The information you have learned in this program is the same, you get to access it when you want it.
Tying everything together, we finish with an audio session which uses the well formed SMARTS goal you have set for this course, and projects it into your future. A goal that is no longer inhibited by negative emotions and limiting beliefs that have sabotaged you in the past.
***The pilgrim now understands that the future happens in the present.
Stage 10, Step 1 – Attracting energy and resources towards your goal
Do this process in the context of your specific SMARTS goal.
You have already used a similar audio process to release limiting beliefs and negative emotions that came up when you were setting your SMARTS goals. Here we will use the below audio to go out in the future, to the time when your goal is to be realised.
Once this is complete, notice how your unconscious mind, the part that keeps you on auto pilot, will start to bring into your awareness, the very things that will aid you in achieving your goal.
There is some basic science behind how projecting your goal into your future will work. There is a part of the nervous system called the reticular activating system. It is around two inches long and about the width of a pencil and its location starts above your spinal cord. This is where all your senses come in, except for smell. Smell goes directly into your emotional centre of the brain, but all the other senses come in via the reticular activating system, allowing the conscious and unconscious minds to intersect.
It plays a significant role in achieving goals. The RAS is a network of neurons in the brainstem that filters sensory information and regulates arousal levels, attention, and alertness. It helps to focus our attention on the most relevant and important stimuli while filtering out irrelevant stimuli.
The RAS is also involved in goal setting and achievement. When we set a goal, the RAS helps to identify and focus on the relevant stimuli in our environment that can help us achieve that goal. This process is known as selective attention, and it allows us to prioritize the information that is most important for achieving our goals while ignoring distractions.
Moreover, the RAS also helps to regulate our level of motivation and energy, which are crucial factors in achieving our goals. By stimulating the RAS through visualisation, affirmation, and other techniques, we can increase our motivation and focus on the actions that will lead us to achieve our goals.
Therefore, the RAS is an essential component of the brain that plays a crucial role in achieving goals by filtering information, focusing our attention, and regulating our motivation and energy levels.
If you think of facial recognition technology, you will begin to understand how this works. Your mind, because of its RAS, has this very capacity to scan a large crowd of people and spot out someone you know. This same system will scan for every detail in your SMARTS goal too, and this is how you will attract the energy and resources you need to achieve it.
Now for the last step, attracting energy and resources for your goal. Sit back, relax with a set of headphones and use your active imagination to follow the steps in the below audio.
***During the long pilgrimage seeking riches they believed they deserved, the pilgrim encountered many life-changing experiences. Many epiphanies that shifted their reality. Like shining a torch in a dark room seeing something for the first time, like the hidden workings of the mind. Becoming aware of the hidden aspects of themselves was the first and most important step. That hidden self was in fact the Shepherd, who guided the pilgrim through the internal workings of their mind. By understanding their internal conflicts, they could circumvent self-sabotage.
***Perhaps the biggest lesson was how they were tested. Once they dedicated themselves to their journey, their passion, how the universe tested them seemed at first to be cruel. Indeed, what was learnt was that it was these very tests that allowed them to master the lessons as they moved towards their dreams. Going beyond the point where most give up, is when you know that it is darkest just before dawn.
***Now the pilgrim has become the light bearer, to illuminate the path for others, so they may grasp their learnings and understand that the riches and rewards are not the destination, they are the journey itself.
Congratulations on completing this program and for taking the time to nurture yourself in this way. If you are interested in learning more about NLP and Kinesiology, please let us know in the questionnaire as we will be releasing more programs in the near future.
Thank you for your participation!